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Child-led

December 22, 2011, 0 Comments

I believe in following a child’s leading. Each child is gifted differently and so following his lead helps to nurture where his interest lies. My son has an aptitude for things that require fine-motor skills. So we let him pick up a child-scissors and let him have a go with paper. If he does not like it or can’t do it, he is free to do something else. But since he was doing well, we give him more opportunity. He started cutting at one plus and has been at it for a year now. What he is not allowed to…

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Peer Pressure or Purpose Driven

December 22, 2011, 0 Comments

Yesterday, my son came home from preschool and tells me he wants to put an extra set of clothes in his bag for change when he finishes school. Curious, I asked him why. He mentioned that there are many people who change into their own clothes after school so he wants to do the same. It reminds me of a very common reason most parents use when trying to motivate a child to do something. A statement as innocent as “Sam, drink your water, look all your friends are drinking” is a statement that teaches our kids to model other…

Never give up

Habit of Giving

December 22, 2011, 0 Comments

Today during dinner, KB asked us what greedy was, overhearing the word in our conversation. We said that it is taking more than what we need and wanting something even though we don’t need it. And then discussed what we should do instead of being greedy. And the opposite is to GIVE. So we brainstormed a list of stuff we can give, 1) Presents 2) Time 3) A hug 4) An encouragement 5) A card (my son’s suggestion) 6) A car (my son’s suggestion) 7) The benefit of doubt (hubby’s suggestion) Our left cheek, and right cheek 9) Our tunic…

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Threat or Bribery

March 22, 2011, 0 Comments

Recently we have fallen into the trap of “Threat” parenting. It looks like this, “If you don’t sleep now, I’m going to send you out!” This method is behaviouristic in nature. It is however contrary to the sowing and reaping principle in the Bible. Ps Tedd Tripp quoted in his book, Instructing a child’s heart under the topic ‘Rewards/Punishments of Behaviourism’ of which goals are often driven by consequences as an external attempt to change behaviour – what will appeal to the child enough to be a motivator or sting enough to be a deterrent. Popular behaviourist tactics such as…

Nurturing Tots

Nurturing Tots

August 1, 2010, 0 Comments

We had a little mummy chats session where I shared from the following notes. I thought I will post it here along with the Q&As we discussed. Prov 22:6 Train up the child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not turn from it. Proverbs 4:1-2, Eph 6:1,4, Deut 32: 46-47 “Training” and “Instructions” are two significant ways that the Bible exhort both daddies and mommies in nurturing our kids. Questions to ask ourselves: What is our goal for our child? Does it align with what God wants for our child? 1) Goals of…