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Peer Pressure or Purpose Driven

December 22, 2011, 0 Comments

Yesterday, my son came home from preschool and tells me he wants to put an extra set of clothes in his bag for change when he finishes school. Curious, I asked him why. He mentioned that there are many people who change into their own clothes after school so he wants to do the same. It reminds me of a very common reason most parents use when trying to motivate a child to do something. A statement as innocent as “Sam, drink your water, look all your friends are drinking” is a statement that teaches our kids to model other…

Discipleship: I Saw Pa Pa Do It!

August 8, 2011, 0 Comments

The boys were cycling to the pool one day when half way through the journey, one of the pedal fell out from KB’s bike. So I called for all to stop, got down on all fours and tried to look like the brave and know-it-all handy women. I was probably trying to twist that ‘thing’ in for about 15 mins and all that time, KB was trying to look out for his younger brother. Finally, not withstanding the blaze of sun on my face, actually I think it was a case of finally admitting that I can’t that I had…

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Grace-filled Parenting

July 14, 2011, 0 Comments

I have found myself making a journey few days ago for the sole quest of seeking mercy. It was an actual 3-hour journey end to end. I was inundated with the mission the very moment I’m up from my bed. Dressing up, walking to the bus-stop, and all along the journey, there is only one thing on my heart. Seek mercy. The story was that I was waiting to sign up for a particular class which I was so looking forward to, only to find out that I had missed the deadline and hence my registration was rejected. Not once,…

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Leading Kids into Presence of God

May 23, 2011, 0 Comments

I love worship sessions and the tangible presence of God felt so strongly during those sessions. The easiest way to bring young children into the presence of God, is also during worship. Right from the time when my boys are still in my womb, I like to expose my children to sounds of worship. As babies, I would take them with us whenever we worship, whether it be us worshipping at home, or participating in congregational worship. Our heavenly Father longs to commune with the kids, he longs to speak with them no matter how young they are or how…

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Threat or Bribery

March 22, 2011, 0 Comments

Recently we have fallen into the trap of “Threat” parenting. It looks like this, “If you don’t sleep now, I’m going to send you out!” This method is behaviouristic in nature. It is however contrary to the sowing and reaping principle in the Bible. Ps Tedd Tripp quoted in his book, Instructing a child’s heart under the topic ‘Rewards/Punishments of Behaviourism’ of which goals are often driven by consequences as an external attempt to change behaviour – what will appeal to the child enough to be a motivator or sting enough to be a deterrent. Popular behaviourist tactics such as…

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Childrens Worship

August 2, 2010, 0 Comments

Kids are natural worshippers. Dazzle our children with things of God. (I first hear of that expression from Pastor Tedd Tripp.) I have been seeking God to build children up to adore him. Worship is what completes men. It is what men are made for. Whether we worship God or something else. We are all worshippers, and honestly, I rather worship the King of Kings, the Lord of Lords – Jesus Christ. The Alpha and the Omega. There are all sorts of worship on the shelves today. The best ones are those that are scriptural, catchy and fun. I had…