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Habit of Giving

December 22, 2011, 0 Comments

Today during dinner, KB asked us what greedy was, overhearing the word in our conversation. We said that it is taking more than what we need and wanting something even though we don’t need it. And then discussed what we should do instead of being greedy. And the opposite is to GIVE. So we brainstormed a list of stuff we can give, 1) Presents 2) Time 3) A hug 4) An encouragement 5) A card (my son’s suggestion) 6) A car (my son’s suggestion) 7) The benefit of doubt (hubby’s suggestion) Our left cheek, and right cheek 9) Our tunic…

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Snatching to Sharing

August 9, 2011, 0 Comments

This marks the first of our many topics on “Sibling Rivalry”. Well actually, I rather “Keep the Sibling, lose the Rivalry”, to borrow these words from Ps Tedd Tripp. With late marriages, comes late pregnancies and couples who give birth to siblings who are altogether too close in their age gap. Great play-mates but also lots of competition. If the natural flow of things are often good, we need not interfere with nature. But they seldom are. We often wonder why young kids or rather we, as parents can’t get them to function pass the level of ‘me-first’ mentality. Is it alright…

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Threat or Bribery

March 22, 2011, 0 Comments

Recently we have fallen into the trap of “Threat” parenting. It looks like this, “If you don’t sleep now, I’m going to send you out!” This method is behaviouristic in nature. It is however contrary to the sowing and reaping principle in the Bible. Ps Tedd Tripp quoted in his book, Instructing a child’s heart under the topic ‘Rewards/Punishments of Behaviourism’ of which goals are often driven by consequences as an external attempt to change behaviour – what will appeal to the child enough to be a motivator or sting enough to be a deterrent. Popular behaviourist tactics such as…

Managing the Emotions

December 16, 2010, 0 Comments

About two weeks ago, my elder son, KB had the opportunity to learn to manage his sadness. He felt really sad that he was ill and was unable to drink milk. He had his bout of stomach flu and was recovering slowly. In a fit of frustration and being (extremely) upset, he pulled off the entire blanket cover on our sofa and sent the whole pile of laundry, tumbling. Here is the classic case of choosing between looking at the external (the mess) or the heart of a child (what motivates him to act the way he did). Although, at…

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Childrens Worship

August 2, 2010, 0 Comments

Kids are natural worshippers. Dazzle our children with things of God. (I first hear of that expression from Pastor Tedd Tripp.) I have been seeking God to build children up to adore him. Worship is what completes men. It is what men are made for. Whether we worship God or something else. We are all worshippers, and honestly, I rather worship the King of Kings, the Lord of Lords – Jesus Christ. The Alpha and the Omega. There are all sorts of worship on the shelves today. The best ones are those that are scriptural, catchy and fun. I had…

Melt-downs

July 14, 2010, 0 Comments

Yesterday, I brought my boys toIKEA. At a little play area inside the cafe, a familiar sentence caught my attention. I turned around to see a little girl who said, “I don’t want other people!” I had to smile and look towards the little girl’s mother. I wanted to get this in to confirm my suspicion. “Is she three?” My 3-yr old has fully entered the big ego-centric phase. A good thing to know he is capable of doing more but cognitively still immature. The scenario is such that he would suddenly developed a liking for a certain style of…

Give Kids Big Truth to Grow Into

June 13, 2010, 0 Comments

I first learnt this from Tedd Tripp, author of “Instructing a Child’s heart”. It was much needed as my three-year-old has grown so much cognitively and emotionally. I was searching for lessons for his misbehaviour that will ‘root’ him for life. I have been trying to give my best reasons for discouraging every wrong actions or behaviour when my toddler was about two-year-old. He was able to understand what I say, beyond the fundamental “No, don’t touch this” instruction. But my best is still not enough. At about two and a half to three year old, children start to be…

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Are We Diggin Our Kids

June 23, 2009, 0 Comments

I can only vaguely remember what I was telling Theo to do the other day. It was probably over some trivial activity that I kept on saying “Quickly, faster, faster!” (In true Singaporean fashion – I like things done well and quick.) But the truth was that I was well running out of patience as well. Well, my dear boy has a gentle nature and that he is also leisurely-paced in most things he do. Not that he is clumsy or slow in understanding, on the contrary he is a fast learner and perceptive boy of his age. “But the…