May 28, 2012, 13 Comments

Funny how God’s creation can have such awe-inspiring impact upon our souls. Away from the city, down windy roads, past neatly lined-up rows of palm trees and rubber plantations, the good ol’ countryside sneaked up upon us quietly. All we see are patches of grasslands kissing up to the azure skies. Being on an old-fashioned motor-powered boat that was so low and close to the water , something tells me we’re going to be real close to nature. Amidst the blazing morning sun, I could almost taste the salty sea water on my lips, I let the water caress my…


Yogurt or me?

May 4, 2012, 2 Comments

Earlier during lunch, my elder son told me he was full, with what seemed like less than a mouthful to go. I suddenly recalled there was yogurt in the refrigerator and turned around and told him, “I will let you have the yogurt if you finish the noodle.” Opps, the moment I uttered those words, I knew it. I bribed again. According to Wikipedia dictionary, Bribery, is an act of implying money or gift giving that alters the behaviour of the recipient and a reward is often money, offered as an incentive. So I decided to run a test between…


Emotional Intelligence – Can it be learnt?

April 24, 2012, 4 Comments

My eldest boy turned 5 this year. We decided to ask him how he would like it if we celebrated his birthday with those less privileged. He was really excited and talked about it for days before the event. As a family we believed that it is more blessed to give than to receive. It is good to look out for the interest of others and consider their needs in our interaction with them. The i-generation we lived in today is self-seeking, self-absorbed and largely self-centred. My husband made a comment once, when a Government turn housing into a form…

Training our little baby

March 19, 2012, 0 Comments

We were on a TV program when my eldest son was 15 mths old.  From birth he was always rocked to sleep, but right after we learnt about the possibility of a child sleeping on his own, we trained him to do so. He was also able to play contentedly in his playpen for up to 30mins. Check out the first family being interviewed and see if you can pick up a tip or two!


Outlasting a 3 yr old

March 7, 2012, 13 Comments

  One of the things about being a parent is that we would like to have our kids obey and do what we tell them, especially for young toddlers. They are way to young to be wise in their own eyes. For example, they can’t tell you that they’re really tired because you know all they wanted was to play or that being thirsty is just another way to get down from their bed and away from their nap time. Today my 3 year old and I just about have a tug-of-who-can-outlast-who session. I have learnt that a ‘battle’ is…


Birds and Bees and Babies and Me!

February 16, 2012, 0 Comments

Two years ago, my eldest son who was 3 yrs old picked up a brochure that fell out of our wastepaper basket in our bedroom. It showed a picture of half-clothed women. In fact, only 1 piece of scanty garment was on her. Quickly, he said, “Why so shameful?” . What he meant was why was the lady “not shy” to wear so little. It was a flyer about slimming that found its way to our home. How often does Asian parents talk about S.E.X to their little ones? Hardly. We tend to brush the subject away thinking they are…


Survival without a maid

February 8, 2012, 0 Comments

  Eeeks… we’ve been there! Whatever it is, for a nation who has so relied on maids, we felt so handicap when our trusty maid left for home. My boys are 3 and almost 5 yr old. I don’t know any preschoolers who don’t move and chatter non-stop from sun rise till sun set and mine do. We used to have a maid, but she left so I guess we HAD TO SURVIVE without one. At the time when my maid left. We were in the midst of selling our house, finding a new one, getting a new maid, setting…

Nurturing Tots FAQ

Nurturing Tots – FAQ

December 23, 2011, 0 Comments

  Q: What is playpen time? A: Playpen time is a designated time in a day that we let our baby play in his playpen for not more than 30mins each time. Put two or three interesting toy and change it every two to three days. Playpen time trains attentiveness, problem-solving and independent play. Start by training the baby with 3mins and gradually moving on to longer time to play. We should not abuse the playpen by leaving our baby unattended for unlimited amount of time. Q:When can we put the baby in playpen? A: As soon as the baby…



December 22, 2011, 0 Comments

I believe in following a child’s leading. Each child is gifted differently and so following his lead helps to nurture where his interest lies. My son has an aptitude for things that require fine-motor skills. So we let him pick up a child-scissors and let him have a go with paper. If he does not like it or can’t do it, he is free to do something else. But since he was doing well, we give him more opportunity. He started cutting at one plus and has been at it for a year now. What he is not allowed to…

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Peer Pressure or Purpose Driven

December 22, 2011, 0 Comments

Yesterday, my son came home from preschool and tells me he wants to put an extra set of clothes in his bag for change when he finishes school. Curious, I asked him why. He mentioned that there are many people who change into their own clothes after school so he wants to do the same. It reminds me of a very common reason most parents use when trying to motivate a child to do something. A statement as innocent as “Sam, drink your water, look all your friends are drinking” is a statement that teaches our kids to model other…