The baby of the family is going to be a kor kor soon

January 22, 2013, 2 Comments

The boys were treated with a pleasant surprise recently. Looking at the ultra sound, my gynae explained away the works of pregnancy sac and pointed out what the flashes of light signified. “See there, that is the palpitations of a baby’s heart.” My oldest boy could hardly conceal his delight. He asked my husband, whispering as though afraid this would merely be a dream. “Daddy, is the baby real?” He was in all chatter that day. I absolutely adored his questions. He told me “Mummy, this is great job! Oh actually God is the creator right ? he put the…


Siblings Unity

November 14, 2012, 0 Comments

The day the boys were BOTH into cars, trains, bus and all sorts of vehicles was the day they start fighting. As they say, siblings who fight often, also ends up being closer to one another.   I don’t know how true is that, but I hope that their fight wasn’t malicious. I certainly do not think negative feelings that were generated throughout the years can produce a harvest of love! I suppose the one of the distinctions between first borns, onlies and latter borns are that first borns and onlines came into the world thinking the world belongs to them…

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Snatching to Sharing

August 9, 2011, 0 Comments

This marks the first of our many topics on “Sibling Rivalry”. Well actually, I rather “Keep the Sibling, lose the Rivalry”, to borrow these words from Ps Tedd Tripp. With late marriages, comes late pregnancies and couples who give birth to siblings who are altogether too close in their age gap. Great play-mates but also lots of competition. If the natural flow of things are often good, we need not interfere with nature. But they seldom are. We often wonder why young kids or rather we, as parents can’t get them to function pass the level of ‘me-first’ mentality. Is it alright…

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A Strong-willed Child

August 5, 2010, 0 Comments

James Dobson’s book, like many of his books, it is written in Q&A fashion. There are however several chapters which are dedicated to his ideas and what he believed and I thought those are commendable reads, mainly because I respected him for his professionalism, his heart for families and his conviction on the word of God. In one of his chapters in his book, entitled, The New Strong-willed Child, he cited some literature which dispenses “misguided advice on child rearing…” One example was that of John Holt. I quote, ” John Caldwell Holt wrote a terrible text in 1974 entitled…