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Whatever you do, keep your feet on the ground

May 14, 2013, 1 Comment

 Looking at the boys, I can’t help but to re-live my childhood. Parenting forces us to look at the other side of the mirror. Like a walk back into our own history, like it or not. We can choose to take a chance to make a wrong right, or ignore it and walk away. In this journey, we too discover healing for our own hearts. It is often mysterious. Of emotional management, we started to talk about appropriating expressions. We have a plush wine coloured chair set out in the living room. A CD player at one corner and a…

Why is Obedience Big Deal

November 11, 2011, 0 Comments

The Lord requires of it. Proverbs 19:16 – He who obeys instructions guards his life, but he who is contemptuous of his ways will die. Deut 28:1 – If you fully obey the LORD your God and carefully follow all his commands I give you today, the LORD your God will set you high above all the nations on earth. 2 Chron 31:21 – In everything that he undertook in the service of God’s temple and in obedience to the law and the commands, he sought his God and worked wholeheartedly. And so he prospered. Proverbs 2 : Moral Benefits…

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Grace-filled Parenting

July 14, 2011, 0 Comments

I have found myself making a journey few days ago for the sole quest of seeking mercy. It was an actual 3-hour journey end to end. I was inundated with the mission the very moment I’m up from my bed. Dressing up, walking to the bus-stop, and all along the journey, there is only one thing on my heart. Seek mercy. The story was that I was waiting to sign up for a particular class which I was so looking forward to, only to find out that I had missed the deadline and hence my registration was rejected. Not once,…

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Threat or Bribery

March 22, 2011, 0 Comments

Recently we have fallen into the trap of “Threat” parenting. It looks like this, “If you don’t sleep now, I’m going to send you out!” This method is behaviouristic in nature. It is however contrary to the sowing and reaping principle in the Bible. Ps Tedd Tripp quoted in his book, Instructing a child’s heart under the topic ‘Rewards/Punishments of Behaviourism’ of which goals are often driven by consequences as an external attempt to change behaviour – what will appeal to the child enough to be a motivator or sting enough to be a deterrent. Popular behaviourist tactics such as…

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When We Apologise to our Kids

July 18, 2010, 0 Comments

We make mistakes. None of us walk with unconditional love and clean hearts. After we have met God, things begin to change. Then we want to meet God again and again. That’s the power of grace. Parenting is the same. We muck-up frequently. Sometimes we would have lost our temper on the most trivial things. Sometimes we over-react. The worst thing is to have our over-reactions or foolishness hurt the little ones. We have our fair share. What do we do? I have realised that children wants to obey their parents. They have an innate sense of wanting to please…

Melt-downs

July 14, 2010, 0 Comments

Yesterday, I brought my boys toIKEA. At a little play area inside the cafe, a familiar sentence caught my attention. I turned around to see a little girl who said, “I don’t want other people!” I had to smile and look towards the little girl’s mother. I wanted to get this in to confirm my suspicion. “Is she three?” My 3-yr old has fully entered the big ego-centric phase. A good thing to know he is capable of doing more but cognitively still immature. The scenario is such that he would suddenly developed a liking for a certain style of…

Give Kids Big Truth to Grow Into

June 13, 2010, 0 Comments

I first learnt this from Tedd Tripp, author of “Instructing a Child’s heart”. It was much needed as my three-year-old has grown so much cognitively and emotionally. I was searching for lessons for his misbehaviour that will ‘root’ him for life. I have been trying to give my best reasons for discouraging every wrong actions or behaviour when my toddler was about two-year-old. He was able to understand what I say, beyond the fundamental “No, don’t touch this” instruction. But my best is still not enough. At about two and a half to three year old, children start to be…

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Training Active Babies

December 11, 2009, 0 Comments

Praise the Lord for his creation. All babies are wonderfully and fearfully made. My younger son is a very alert, quick and agile baby. How time flies, he is now 11months old. At only 2 weeks old, he could lift his head up and turn from side to side. At 2 months old, he refuse to be nursed. At 11months old he refused to lie down and drink from the bottle. He prefers to use a straw to drink his milk! Praise the Lord for children so special in their own ways. Language I thought he was not as verbal…