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Christmas & Grateful kids

November 27, 2012, 4 Comments

I don’t know about you, but the world is literally screaming “Shopping!” come Christmas every year.

Kids are going “Yeah… I’m going to get presents!” So much about the true meaning of Christmas.

I have a confession. Actually one of the most coveted items I have on my list today is the Note II. With my Galaxy S,  I am already doing so much, I can only imagine how powerful Note II is. I could possibly make my life go so much faster with the convenience it brings. Instead, I think the hubs got me a laptop. He said it was on sale.

I guess that means I could only do one thing I know how. Be grateful.

Many people come and go in our lives. But we take so little time to tell them they are beautiful. I want to do that this Christmas. We just need to look out for them and not take them for granted. This is gratefulness in action.

Many inconveniences would come our way, particularly people who are subordinated to us, like our domestic helpers or staff at our workplace, or the system in Singapore which is made to run like clock-work with zero tolerance for mistakes and zero delays. I want to practise forgiveness whenever possible. I say practise because so often it is more natural for us to talk down to others when they make a mistake, or be crude when we don’t see the other side of the coin. I want to forgive. This too is gratefulness in action.

Being grateful is NOT looking at what others’ have and then pretend that its ok not to have it.  That is false humility.  Instead I want to keep my eyes on what I already have and count my blessings.

Being grateful is NOT looking at what others’ have not – some lost both limbs, or lost a spouse or a kid to a terminal illness. This Christmas, I don’t want to look at the disadvantaged and say “Thank God, I’m ok”. This is pride because we seemed to be in a better position than they are.

I thought about the gifts I already got for my children (stashed away in the storeroom of course); A two-wheeler scooter for my older boy and a remote control toy car he wanted for a long time.  I’m quite sure these would be gifts they will both like. But there will also be other gifts from families and friends which they may or may not like. That is not important.

The better gift I wanted to give them however is the gift of being grateful. Big or small, pretty or not. For each of the boys, I’m sure they can learn to look for beauty within the giver.

In practical ways as we always have, we will open all the pressies on boxing day, but store them away and take each one out by the months.  This way, they learn to value each gift fully.  Gratefulness is neither being greedy nor demanding. Being grateful is to learn to pace life laced with grace.

Just like what Christmas truly represents. God so loved the word that he gave his only son, Jesus, so none can perish but have eternal life. For God so loved the world…

Because God loved, he gave. Christmas & grateful kids can go hand in hand.

4 Responses to “Christmas & Grateful kids”

  1. Angie says:

    Lovely post, thank you for sharing your heartbeat on giving our kids the better gift – the heart of gracefulness in this over-commercialized season of feasting, shopping and merry making. It is my desire to teach my daughter that too.

    • admin says:

      Thanks Angie, I’m glad you are enjoying this post as much as I enjoyed writing it. :) It is such a fine line these days what kids could easily get and what they could earn. I still prefer plenty of hard work to lots of material splurges at their age.

  2. Thanks for sharing! And I’m so amazed you have stashed those gifts in the storeroom already! =)

    • admin says:

      Hi Jiahui,
      yeah.. I tend to be quite a planner .. hahaha… so we got those gifts when we chanced upon them during a sale. :)

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