Nurturing Tots

Nurturing Tots

August 1, 2010, 0 Comments

We had a little mummy chats session where I shared from the following notes. I thought I will post it here along with the Q&As we discussed. Prov 22:6 Train up the child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not turn from it.

Proverbs 4:1-2, Eph 6:1,4, Deut 32: 46-47

“Training” and “Instructions” are two significant ways that the Bible exhort both daddies and mommies in nurturing our kids.

Questions to ask ourselves:

What is our goal for our child? Does it align with what God wants for our child?

1) Goals of Spiritual Training

Psalm 15

A Psalm of David.

1 LORD, who may dwell in your sanctuary?
Who may live on your holy hill?

2 He whose walk is blameless
and who does what is righteous,
who speaks the truth from his heart

3 and has no slander on his tongue,
who does his neighbour no wrong
and casts no slur on his fellowman,

4 who despises a vile man
but honors those who fear the LORD,
who keeps his oath
even when it hurts,

5 who lends his money without usury
and does not accept a bribe against the innocent.
He who does these things
will never be shaken.

2) The Whole Child Concept

Proverbs 4:23 Above all else guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.

If you train the heart, you train the whole child.

3) What is Happening in the Society Today? Pitfalls to Avoid.1 Cor 10:23 – 24“Everything is permissible”—but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible”—but not everything is constructive. Nobody should seek his own good, but the good of others.Society vs ScriptureØ Quicker & more syndrome Vs. Sitting at the feet of Jesus

i.e.: Send kids too many enrichments/academic learning and as young as possible Vs. setting time to enjoy bonding and training in obedience to parents.

Ø Idolizing academic achievement Vs. training of the heart

i.e.: Gearing kids to read at 2-years-old Vs. getting kids to obey cheerfully and immediately on our first instruction by 2-years-old.

Ø Importance of possessions Vs. focus on relationships

i.e.: Acquire fancy baby gadgets and toys Vs. spend more time with loved ones.

Ø Absolute Freedom Vs. True freedom as a result of boundaries

i.e: Let the baby do anything he/she wants as it is normal for them to misbehave Vs. training in virtue of self-control.

Absolute Freedom

Common excuses are “She is just a baby”, “he will outgrow when he is older”, “Oh it’s good for children to be naughty”, “Look! My toddler is so smart, he can argue with me!” or “He will fuss and cry if he wants something and I could never control him.”

When we have allowed excessive freedom

Proverbs 28:26

He who trusts in his own heart is a fool,
But whoever walks wisely will be delivered.

Proverbs 29:11

A fool gives full vent to his anger,
but a wise man keeps himself under control.

Proverbs 29:15

The rod of correction imparts wisdom,
but a child left to himself disgraces his mother.

Proverbs 29:17

17 Discipline your son, and he will give you peace;
he will bring delight to your soul.

Proverbs 26:12

Do you see a man wise in his own eyes?
There is more hope for a fool than for him
.

This is how it looks like “I’ve asked little Johnny not to touch the socket, but he will still does it,”

Susanne Wesley “In order to form the minds of children, the first thing to be done is to conquer the will, and bring them into an obedient temper. To inform the understanding is a work of time, and must with children proceed by slow degrees as they are able to bear it; but the subjecting of the will is a thing which must be done at once, and the sooner, the better!”

4) How To’s

Can we have fun training our child?

James Dobson “Begin teaching respect for authority when children a very young

Age Attribute How
Birth onwards Self-control Routine
6-24 months Self-control High Chair manners
6-24 months Attentiveness Play pen time
6-24 months Obedience Responding to “No touching”, “come here”, “Give me a hug”
6-24 months Attentiveness Listening to wholesome stories
6-24 months Self-control Signing
8-24 months Responsibility Keeping toys, putting laundry away, putting shoes on shoe rack etc.
15-24 months Politeness “Yes mummy!” “Please, may I?”, “Thank you”
12-24 months Respect Eye Contact
15-24 months Responsibility/Servanthood Helping out at home

 

Sample routine for toddler:

Morning (7.30am – 11am)

o Wake – up

o Prayer

o Worship

o Breakfast

o Playpen time

o Outdoor play/Nature play

o Clean-up/Fruit

o Bible & story time

o Nap

Afternoon (12noon – 3pm)

o Lunch

o Free Play

o Clean-up time

o Worship

o Nap

o (snack)

Evening (5pm – 9pm)

o Dinner

o Family time – Story/free play

o Bedtime

Reference

1) Growing Families International – Preparation for the toddlers years.

2) Focus on Family, Parents’ guide to the Spiritual growth of Children, John Trent Ph.D, Rick Osborne, Kurt Bruner, Tyndale House publishers, Wheaton, Illinois, 2000

3) Einstein Never Used Flash Cards: How Our Children Really Learn– And Why They Need to Play More and Memorize Less, Kathy Hirsh-Pasek Ph.D. (Author), Roberta Michnick Golinkoff Ph.D. (Author), Diane Eyer Ph.D. (Author), Rodale Books

4) The New Strong-Willed child, Tyndale House Publisher, Inc, 1984, James Dobson

Resources

1) Candle Baby’s Bible

2) First Toddler Virtue

http://www.amazon.com/First-Virtues-Toddlers-Mary-Simon/dp/0784718482

Places to buy

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Mon-Fri 11 to 8 pm, Sat- 11 to 7pm Mon – Fri 9 to 7 pm, Sat – 9 to 6 pm*

Precious thots outlets

Raffles, Suntec city, Causeway point, West Mall

Online order

Australia – Koorong

UK – Book Depository (free delivery)

Amazon

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