Are We Diggin Our Kids

June 23, 2009, 0 Comments

I can only vaguely remember what I was telling Theo to do the other day. It was probably over some trivial activity that I kept on saying “Quickly, faster, faster!” (In true Singaporean fashion – I like things done well and quick.) But the truth was that I was well running out of patience as well.

Well, my dear boy has a gentle nature and that he is also leisurely-paced in most things he do. Not that he is clumsy or slow in understanding, on the contrary he is a fast learner and perceptive boy of his age.

“But the truth was that I was well running out of patience as well.”

Upon completion of the task at hand, he then proceeded to run out of the room saying “Faster, faster!” as he heads towards the living room. Suddenly, there was a loud thud and I had turned around only to see him falling flat on his face. His cries indicated a more serious fall than the usual tumble. Blood was coming out from his two front teeth. He had knocked his teeth against his upper lips on the ground. The next few hours, Theo was walking around with swollen upper lips.

There was no serious injury. But this became a teachable moment for me. God showed me that a child take criticism not just by the unkind words that come out of our mouths, but by the stinking attitude that we have. Sure, we probably don’t go in full steam condemnation of “so stupid you!” but by huffing and puffing our standard over theirs is certainly NOT accepting them as they are. This form of criticism has its way of working into our childrens’ lives when we do not keep our attitudes in check.

As Asians we probably have parents who were critical of us at some point, we could possibly find ourselves feeling small in some ways in our life. Thankfully, all’s not lost and doom. 2 corinthians 7:10 tells us, “Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death.”

Confession to God will bring about restoration not only to ourselves but also to our children.
I have to remind myself that parenting is no work of efficiency, but a spiritual journey, a dancing to the beat of the Holy Spirit.

He leads in his timing, we follow.

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