Career choice: Marketplace or Stay Home Mum

November 3, 2007, 0 Comments


Someone asked me if I was a SAHM, why would I find a job.

Deep inside all of us, we know that raising a family IS an essential part of living. Yet the question is not “why work?” but  “why a career at home seen less important than a career in the marketplace?”

I have been in the marketplace for about 8 or 9 years now. I asked myself if I have lusted, and if I am still lusting after what I have built over those years; the adrenalin rush of achievements. The power, vanity and the tangible bank account that grows with it all. The fulfillment of living out of my parents’ dream, built upon their blood and sweat – overseas education and all?

Parenting is a full time job! I’ve come to realise how little I know on the subject of parenting, but how excited I am to discover new knowledge, experience God’s intervention and most of all dependence upon him. Unlike other careers, a career of parenting is life-long, sacred and YES many times SCARY! It pays odd dividends of sorts, gets no monetary rewards, no overseas incentives, and sends us to our knees lightning-speed with the slightest abnormality of behaviour. 6-month old baby Theo had just been on complementary feeding and he didn’t poo for 6 days. We prayed, consulted books, checked with friends and followed the remedy. Just this evening, a strange familiar smell filled the room. It brought smiles to our face. It was not just that he poo-poo, but the process in which a tiny baby as small as 6months co-operating upon our instructions which sent us to the moon with delight.

Some months ago, God spoke to me during a morning devotion about faith healing. Right after, Baby Theo had a temperature measuring above 38 degrees. Knowing that God spoke to me about faith healing, I struggled to trust him against my MIL’s instructions, good as it may be. Eventually, God honoured my belief and Theophilus was healed. So where’s my bonus for averting a mini-crisis? There was none but gladly I give glory to the Lord. Tangible rewards are far and few between . The jewel is in the joy that outlast it all. I learnt that I had to count my blessings this way.

30 Sept 2007 – Baby Dedication Day. On its eve, I was a nervous wreck. I told David I felt exactly like the eve of my wedding day. I was very excited, yet very nervous. I wonder why.

These are the charge our church prepared for us:

1) We will solemnly undertake to raise our child/children in the fear and reverence for the Lord.
2) We will commit ourselves to studying God’s word on a daily basis so that we are filled with God’s knowledge for our child/children.
3) We will teach our child/children God’s word and help them to study it so that they will have the life sklls to use and apply to their own lives.
4) we will correct and discipline our child/children accordance to God’s word.
5) We pledge to lead our child/children to know God’s love for us and his gift of eternal life through his sone Jesus.
6) We will teach our child/children to pray by example. We will pray with and for our child and teach our child to “be still and know God.”
7) We will commit ourselves o doing all that we can to support our child in his/her spiritual growth at home, in church and in the world.
8) We understand that God has created our child to fulfill the Great Commission and is purposed to serve him as his/her Lord.
We acknowledge that it is our responsibility to help our child understand this.

Such is the honour and privilege of being a parent.
Honour – Even though we, as we are, mere mortals who
struggle in our walk, being fully grown as adult, sometimes still acted as though we are children ourselves, yet given such a BIG responsibility for the life of another human being, so precious in God’s sight.
Privilege – Being so limited and finite in our understanding and resources yet given the BLESSINGS of uncountable JOY and LOVE in caring for our child.

I fought back my tears.

Actually, I havent yet discussed the topic I set out to do today. I merely retell the wonderful experience of being a parent. I was at a bus-stop one day when I saw a working mother walking with a child in PAP uniform with an elderly man. The mother kissed the child goodbye and the grandpa and child walked on, hand in hand.

I don’t know about anyone, but I’d rather be the one holding my child’s hand and sending him to school. Its just one of the privilege I look forward to. Deut 6:4-6 “Hear O Israel: The Lord is our God, the Lord alone. You shall love the Lord the Lord your God with ALL your HEART, and with ALL your SOUL, and with ALL your MIGHT. Keep these words that I am commanding you today in your heart. RECITE them to your children and TALK about them when you are AT HOME and when are AWAY, when you LIE DOWN and when you RISE. Bind them as a sign on your hand, fix them as an emblem on your forehead, and write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.

Don’t get me wrong. I enjoyed my work immensely. BUT….. I love my child. Does it mean I give up work in the markeplace totally and forever? I guess, it’ll be fair to say that between a “career” at home and a career in the marketplace, I’m able to make the choice of the former… only because he (God) enables me.

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